Your Relationship is Your Exclusive Opportunity & Responsibility

“Relationships are a 50/50 proposition,” and “Getting along is a two-way-street,” are ideas that go around a lot. You may have heard them once or twice yourself. Well, I have heard them too and respectfully disagree. “Relate the best you know how, every chance you get.” You do recall that verse of our theme song, do you not? Well, I am singing it again.

You are accountable for and can only be accountable for how you manage your side of your relationship. What’s more, your side of the relationship is your exclusive opportunity and responsibility. You and your significant other may share a lot but not this. No one can do it for you; no one can prevent you from doing it.

“I would be different if you were different.” Have you ever heard that old excuse for a whiner’s less than best effort in a relationship? It takes but a minute’s thought to see the logic. “Since you are not the way I think you should be, I am justified in being less than I am capable of being.” …