It is not clear who you think you are. You act like rules were made for everyone but you. Others have to behave in acceptable ways; but you can do whatever you want. You do not think you have to listen to anyone. No one is going to tell you what to do or how to act. You will drive however you want, do whatever with whomever you choose, and to hell with everyone else.
No, there is nothing wrong with you. If people think there is, they only need to ask you. They will get set straight very quickly. It is perfectly normal to drink so much. You can handle your liquor. Having a few beers is just part of being in your group. Your friends are just like you; and anyone can see they are fine. You do not do drugs much. Just a few times a week to be sociable; but you are too smart to get into trouble with the hard stuff. People make too much of a big deal out of it anyway. You are an adult and what you do with your life is no one's business but yours.
Your family cannot depend on you and no one trusts you much, but so what? You usually get to work and they should be grateful for what you do get around to doing for them. If you were a bum, you would have left a long time ago. You are not one of those people who walks out on your family and responsibilities. If they get upset and feel hurt, it is their problem. You have enough to worry about without getting all sloppy over a few tears.
You were fired a few times and had a run-in or so with the police. No big deal. You did not do anything all that bad. Everyone else does the same things. It was just your bad luck to get caught. You will be fine. You always find another job or get off. If there was anything so wrong with you, no one would hire you; and you would not keep getting off when the cops get on your back. They just like to act like big deals anyway. They like having everyone afraid of them. But you are certainly not afraid of anyone.