Below are thirty words that describe interpersonal traits,
attitudes, or characteristics that are found in effective relationships.  Your being a person with style who is good at
relationships depends on how often these traits and characteristics are present
in your relationships.  Using a scale
from five to one, rate yourself in terms of how often these traits and
characteristics are present for you in your relationships with your family
members.  Five equals almost always, four
equals usually, three equals sometimes, two equals seldom, and one equals
almost never.




Using one word at a time and rating yourself on each item,
think in terms of a statement that says, “In my relationships with people in my
family, I am _____.”  Fill in the blank
with each of the thirty words below and then rate yourself in terms of the
thirty statements.




1. Accepting


2. Affectionate


3. Ambitious


4. Assertive


5. Attractive


6. Considerate


7. Consistent


8. Dependable


9. Decisive


10. Energetic


11. Fair


12. Flexible


13. Gentle


14. Giving


15. Hardworking


16. Helpful


17. Honest


18. Involved


19. Loyal


20. Moral


21. Open


22. Patient


23. Playful


24. Positive


25. Predictable


26. Relaxed


27. Responsible


28. Spontaneous


29. Supportive


30. Tolerant